Learning to Relax

You would think that relaxing would be something easy to do, right? Not so much for me. I am learning to relax. I can relate so much to Martha in the Bible. In Luke 10:38-42, Martha was busy with all the work as her sister sat attentive and focused at the Lord’s feet.

Martha missed what was truly important at that moment.

I am so much more like Martha than Mary.  My son wants to watch TV with me, but I feel the need to be doing something while watching. Dinner cooking? Why not load the dishwasher? It is so hard for me to be present. 

I work in senior care, and one thing I have learned from older adults living with dementia…you learn to live in the moment. They have been great teachers to me.

I tend to wake up early even after a short night of sleep. I can relax best in the morning quiet. I love the ocean, the mountains, the lake…they all help me relax. I know I need to learn to relax where I am. Resting is important for my well-being.

I also want to be attentive with my friends. I want to be present for my family. I want to learn to relax. I don’t want to miss moments at the Lord’s feet. These moments are present every single day. 

God is with us. Rest and relaxation are okay. In fact, they are needed to replenish our tired souls.

The Lord replied, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” 

How do you relax? Am I the only one who struggles with being able to relax?


Mind Over Matter

Our thoughts possess a lot of power. A negative thought can steal our joy whereas a positive thought can redirect our focus. Our minds are an intricate weaving of memories, thoughts, information, and emotions…somehow all blended together to make us who we are.

I spend my days with people….I work with residents diagnosed with dementia, families, coworkers from all walks of life, other residents who may not have dementia but require assistance with their day to day living…I experience a multitude of personalities and emotions. I witness firsthand reactions to situations and experiences in response to various coping methods of people.

Life does not always go as planned, in fact, it seldom does. My life is nowhere anything like I pictured it would be when I was a senior in high school, but my life is good. It’s a meshing of experiences that have created who I am today. I consider myself a work in progress. One thing I do believe, though….we have the power of mind over matter. We can’t always control the situation or even the outcome of a situation, but we can choose our reaction as we weather the storms of life.

As I struggle with food issues and the frustration of reacting to what feels like everything and as I slowly use Lyn-Genet Recitas’ methods of testing one food at a time per day through her guided “The Plan”, I am learning to relax some about food. I have eaten out twice and had a work luncheon since starting “The Plan,” and I have been able to apply what I know about what I can safely eat, and I have been able to relax. I am learning to relax again and enjoy social eating…something that has caused me anxiety the past few years since dealing with food issues.

Mind over matter can be applied to so many areas of my life. We’ve all heard stories of people being healed of illnesses….people who remained positive through the storms of life and didn’t allow the situation to overtake their thoughts.

Food for thought today: Mind over matter….be mindful of your thoughts and don’t let them control you!

mind over matter