Coffee Talks

Saturday morning coffee with a friend whom I haven’t seen in a while… exactly what I needed.

I met this friend in the midst of a challenging work environment where we both worked closely together to make the best out of a difficult situation. To reflect where we are both now and the journey we have taken to reach this point was encouraging. It was so encouraging to share with one another our growth and to have a shared frame of reference from where we began.

I love how God intertwines our stories with the stories of others. Relationships matter. Sometimes, they have the most unlikely of beginnings. Sometimes, they form in the most difficult moments. God knows who we need when we need them. So many of my friendships have been connections where I can truly reflect and know God placed that person in my life for a reason.

Conversation over coffee is sometimes exactly what you need.

This verse has been comforting to me this week…The righteous person will have many troubles, but the Lord will rescue him from each one. Psalm 34:19

Rescue doesn’t mean life isn’t hard, but it means God is with us and will help see us through. I believe the gift of friendship is one of the ways God rescues us.

My conversation with my friend this morning reminded me the many ways God has rescued me and carried me over the past few years.

Sometimes a cup of coffee with a friend helps put everything back in perspective.

When is the last time you set up a coffee or dinner date with a friend? Maybe it’s time.😊

***two unlikely friends***



I have always thought that Behind Closed Doors would be a great title for a novel. Sometimes, the people whose lives we think are perfect, who we find ourselves envious of, actually have very painful stories and struggles behind the closed doors of their homes and hearts. Some people are just really good hiding behind a facade of all is perfect in my life right now while inside they are crying, in denial, or just trying to keep all the pieces together.

Sometimes, I think we forget we were never meant to navigate this thing called life alone. I have come to realize that we all have our struggles. For some people, it is financial worries. For others, it is the painful sense of rejection. Some struggle with self identify and self worth. Sometimes, I find myself struggling with a combination of all of them.

Point is…we all struggle, we all have our insecurities, we all have good days and really bad days. Two things I have learned from working in long term care with families, residents, and staff…1) to be compassionate and not judge others because everyone has a life story and 2) sometimes, I need to reach out to a trusted friend when what I really might want to do is retreat and be alone.

Some days, all you need is a coffee break with a friend, a small group meeting with some church friends, or a really good laugh or cry with some close friends or family. Maybe it’s you, maybe it’s them, but we all need to know someone cares. A smile truly can go a very long way.

Working in long term care, as families walk the journey of aging parents and all that can go with it including finances, dementia, choosing facilities, the dying process…sometimes all it takes is one person’s smile, compassionate words, or simple gesture of caring to make all the difference in the world.