Father’s Day Reflections

The internet abounds with Father’s Day posts on Facebook, Instagram, and multiple blogs. I have a wonderful father. I am fortunate to have a great relationship with my father-in-law. And, I have an amazing husband who is an amazing father to our children.

This Father’s Day, I was asked to share the Father’s Day tribute at our church. After a cute little video, I shared the reflections God had laid on my heart.

Our son was adopted from the Philippines in March 2009. He had never had a father figure in his life. Accepting a mother in his life seemed much easier for him than the role of dad. For the first five years of his life, he had been his own little man.

Relationships take time. Trust must be built. Nine years later, they have a great relationship. Some days are rocky but what parent doesn’t have an issue from time to time with a teenager!!

It took our son time to learn to accept the love of an earthly father. How many times have we as Christians struggled with accepting love from our Heavenly Father? We don’t always feel worthy of His love or believe He can love us despite our scars and brokenness.

My son has taught me so many life lessons. He reminds me that God loves us…as little children scared, alone, and just wanting to belong and be loved.

This Father’s day, thank you to all the special men who love not only their own children but open their hearts to love others as well.

Happy Father’s Day.

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The Heart of All that matters…

Sometimes, I feel like a thirty-some year old living with the mindset of someone much older. I don’t care much for material stuff. I am more interested in relationships with others than the car I drive and the balance in my checking.

Don’t get me wrong… I love to travel, love a good meal out, and worry about my money at times but I generally tend to focus on the simple things.

I was talking through some of this with a friend and she said a lot of this probably has to do with my daily life perspective in working with older adults in long term care.

Everyday, I am honored to spend time with those at the ends of their lives. Their life possessions have been downsized to a small room or half of a room. “Stuff” no longer matters. 

What is so, so universal despite differing financial backgrounds… people want to be heard, to know their life still has value and purpose.

Relationships matter. 

Life can be pretty lonely when you have no one to share in it with….no one to cry with, to dream with, to laugh with, to share a cup of coffee with, to pray with… 

It makes me so sad when I hear bitterness in people’s voices towards family members and friends. I have witnessed daughters refuse to say goodbye to their dying mother because of years of estranged relationships.

That just strikes me as so sad. I never, ever judge family situations, but those type of situations just make me sad.

Last week, my pastor preached this sermon…some people look down in shame, some look back in regret, and others look around for someone to blame or to compare their situation to. The only way that will move us forward is by looking up. Up to Him for healing.

God can heal relationships, lonely hearts, and feelings of resentment and bitterness.

Relationships matter. And in the end, they are the only thing that matters. 

I encourage you to take some time today and let those who you love know how much they mean to you. Relationships matter. ❤