I am learning it is okay to say no. Saying no means saying yes to something else. That something else might be rest. It might be family time. It might mean writing time. It might mean quiet. When I say no, I am making a choice.
I used to feel this pressure to be “Super Mom”…working full-time, Girl Scout leader, soccer coach, church board committee president, school helper…and completely and totally exhausted emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.
God has used my illness. God has used the words of close friends in my life. God has used the unfiltered, genuine words from my children. God has used His Word. God has used all of these things to remind me that sometimes, I just need to say no. Saying no is okay.
This afternoon, I received a text message. Some of my friends from church invited me to dinner tonight for a girls’ night out. My GI issues are flared up today. My nerve pain is in full force today. I just want to and just need to be home. I need to rest. I declined their invite with no reservations. I know it is okay if I stay home and do nothing but what I want and what I feel like doing. I know they understand.
I believe God wants us to rest. We were not created to be super humans on the go all the time. Work zaps a lot of my energy. I need to find balance between work and personal time which means I need to say “No” sometimes. I must make choices.
I need to surrender to the pressure to be “Super Mom” and realize and embrace that saying no is taking care of myself. I have been an “on the go” kind of person since I was in high school, so it has taken me twenty years to realize this, but I am learning there is freedom in saying no, and that is okay. If I don’t take care of myself, then I am not honoring God.
Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NLT