Elder friends

I have friends of all ages, but I especially treasure my friendships with my elder friends who share so much wisdom with me.

I lost a dear friend this week. At 95 years, she lived a very full life. As I reflect on her life and our friendship, these thoughts come to mind…

  • She always believed in me.
  • She supported my writing dreams.
  • She was always so giving.
  • She didn’t sweat the small stuff.
  • She lived life to fullest.
  • She forgave.
  • She lived her Christian faith.
  • She loved her family and friends.
  • She never wavered in her faith.
  • She accepted the things she could not change.

I have so, so many memories. My heart is sad, but as my friend and I prayed with this dear friend just a day before her death, we told her, see you in heaven. I will miss her dearly, but she has left a lasting impact on my life that will continue to inspire me.

As I am reading my devotional this morning, this verse captured my attention and made me think of my dear friend.

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 2 Timothy 4:7

Cherish your friends… Especially your elder friends.

#elders #friendship

The Heart of All that matters…

Sometimes, I feel like a thirty-some year old living with the mindset of someone much older. I don’t care much for material stuff. I am more interested in relationships with others than the car I drive and the balance in my checking.

Don’t get me wrong… I love to travel, love a good meal out, and worry about my money at times but I generally tend to focus on the simple things.

I was talking through some of this with a friend and she said a lot of this probably has to do with my daily life perspective in working with older adults in long term care.

Everyday, I am honored to spend time with those at the ends of their lives. Their life possessions have been downsized to a small room or half of a room. “Stuff” no longer matters. 

What is so, so universal despite differing financial backgrounds… people want to be heard, to know their life still has value and purpose.

Relationships matter. 

Life can be pretty lonely when you have no one to share in it with….no one to cry with, to dream with, to laugh with, to share a cup of coffee with, to pray with… 

It makes me so sad when I hear bitterness in people’s voices towards family members and friends. I have witnessed daughters refuse to say goodbye to their dying mother because of years of estranged relationships.

That just strikes me as so sad. I never, ever judge family situations, but those type of situations just make me sad.

Last week, my pastor preached this sermon…some people look down in shame, some look back in regret, and others look around for someone to blame or to compare their situation to. The only way that will move us forward is by looking up. Up to Him for healing.

God can heal relationships, lonely hearts, and feelings of resentment and bitterness.

Relationships matter. And in the end, they are the only thing that matters. 

I encourage you to take some time today and let those who you love know how much they mean to you. Relationships matter. ❤