A Road Less Traveled

A bridge construction project blocked off a major road forcing me to choose an alternative route along a path seldom traveled. As I drove, rows of purple and yellow flowers classified as weeds by many lined the road. As the sun shone and illuminated their colors, and they swayed in the gentle wind, I reflected on the beauty in perspective. 

Often times those things in life which are difficult create beautiful growth in our lives. It’s all a matter of perspective. 

I had coffee with someone this morning who I had met while working in a difficult job situation. God allowed our paths to cross and continues to use our connection for His good. This country drive with the rural flowers was on my way to a funeral visitation. While there, God reminded me that He is using me to touch lives.

My stomach issues…the reason I started this blog…have been used to connect me to others in my life.

Even my anxiety has been used for His good as I continue to grow and work through things in my life.

Sometimes, life doesn’t always take us the way we intended, but a road less traveled may have blessings along the way.

The Sign Lady

There is a sign that I passed every day on the way to work, and on this sign are names of people and their birthdays and  anniversaries. It’s in a rural area. I don’t even know if you can call it a town. It’s a small area with a Catholic school, a meat market, a huge cemetery, a carry out and a few small businesses but nothing much more. 

I met this sign lady who changes the sign every morning at a musical event at the nursing home where I worked. After that, sometimes I would see her in the morning changing her sign. She highlights people’s everyday events…their birthdays and anniversaries. These are things that matter to people. She cares enough to remember their important dates of their life stories.

 I think sometimes we get so caught up in life that we forget that everyday moments matter. Facebook is a great way to connect with people but it’s also easy to get lost in other people’s lives. We forget that Facebook is a reel of the highlights of their life. It captures their special moments, the good stuff in their life. There are some people who put their dirty laundry on Facebook, but the majority of people like to put pictures of kids, vacations, and the special events. Most people don’t put the areas in their life where they are hurting or struggling. I think we all need reminded that our lives are unique and matter. The ordinary every day stuff matters.

I took a different way home tonight after my chiropractic appointment, and I passed the sign. I haven’t seen that sign in quite a while since I changed jobs. I smiled as I passed the sign. The sign reminded me that everyday moments matter, and this woman is still changing her sign everyday. 

Connections are everything. Without each other life just isn’t as easy. God gives us one another to lean on in the toughest of times and to share everyday moments. Sometimes simply to be with one another is what we need.

This sign lady definitely has a unique ministry. Each of us have the opportunity to touch lives every day.

Sunday Reflections

When the things of the world seem uncertain or out of control or when your own life feels like it is spiraling, wouldn’t it be nice to be able to push an exit button and just hide away from everything for a little while??

We all know life isn’t like that. 

When I look back at some of my greatest times of growth in my life, I recall the challenging circumstances that embodied those times. Those times were often painful times of taking things one step at a time.

I heard a Christmas sermon a few years ago about joy and pain coexisting. I think they do. It is often a matter of perspective and self reflection. This verse comes to mind…

Consider it pure joy my brothers and sisters when you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete not lacking anything.      James 1:2-4 NIV

I have spent some time the past few days reflecting over a conversation I had with someone. Admittedly, I was in a hurry, needing to work my way through a “to do” list when I had spoken with her. I didn’t realize until later that my non-verbal communication communicated just that…I was in hurry. She interpretted this as she was inconveniencing me and taking time from me she was unworthy of deserving.  

I am choosing to use this interaction as an opportunity for me to self-reflect. Life is busy. Life is messy. Life often does not go as planned. Since there is no exit button of temporary escape, how can I endure the pain and embrace the joy simultaneously? In those times when I am feeling overwhelmed, how can I make my interactions with others meaningful despite my own issues?

True, there are times when we need lifted up and supported, but how can we lift up and support others through our own struggles? 

I want to be that person that encourages, coaches, lifts up, and slows down. I am not always that person. The lessons I am taking away from my interaction with this woman are…

1. Every interaction matters.

2. Our non-verbal communication often communicates louder than our spoken words.

3. Everyone has a story and that story often impacts our communication.

4. Slow down. 

5. Perception is reality.

5. Everyday trials hold lessons from God to grow us.

6. Just listen. Listen attentively. Listen a lot. 

Elder friends

I have friends of all ages, but I especially treasure my friendships with my elder friends who share so much wisdom with me.

I lost a dear friend this week. At 95 years, she lived a very full life. As I reflect on her life and our friendship, these thoughts come to mind…

  • She always believed in me.
  • She supported my writing dreams.
  • She was always so giving.
  • She didn’t sweat the small stuff.
  • She lived life to fullest.
  • She forgave.
  • She lived her Christian faith.
  • She loved her family and friends.
  • She never wavered in her faith.
  • She accepted the things she could not change.

I have so, so many memories. My heart is sad, but as my friend and I prayed with this dear friend just a day before her death, we told her, see you in heaven. I will miss her dearly, but she has left a lasting impact on my life that will continue to inspire me.

As I am reading my devotional this morning, this verse captured my attention and made me think of my dear friend.

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 2 Timothy 4:7

Cherish your friends… Especially your elder friends.

#elders #friendship

The Heart of All that matters…

Sometimes, I feel like a thirty-some year old living with the mindset of someone much older. I don’t care much for material stuff. I am more interested in relationships with others than the car I drive and the balance in my checking.

Don’t get me wrong… I love to travel, love a good meal out, and worry about my money at times but I generally tend to focus on the simple things.

I was talking through some of this with a friend and she said a lot of this probably has to do with my daily life perspective in working with older adults in long term care.

Everyday, I am honored to spend time with those at the ends of their lives. Their life possessions have been downsized to a small room or half of a room. “Stuff” no longer matters. 

What is so, so universal despite differing financial backgrounds… people want to be heard, to know their life still has value and purpose.

Relationships matter. 

Life can be pretty lonely when you have no one to share in it with….no one to cry with, to dream with, to laugh with, to share a cup of coffee with, to pray with… 

It makes me so sad when I hear bitterness in people’s voices towards family members and friends. I have witnessed daughters refuse to say goodbye to their dying mother because of years of estranged relationships.

That just strikes me as so sad. I never, ever judge family situations, but those type of situations just make me sad.

Last week, my pastor preached this sermon…some people look down in shame, some look back in regret, and others look around for someone to blame or to compare their situation to. The only way that will move us forward is by looking up. Up to Him for healing.

God can heal relationships, lonely hearts, and feelings of resentment and bitterness.

Relationships matter. And in the end, they are the only thing that matters. 

I encourage you to take some time today and let those who you love know how much they mean to you. Relationships matter. ❤